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The Five Stages Of Grief
In another post, I talked about grief, and the way in which it manifests itself. I talked about how it is messy, and painful, and disordered.
https://medium.com/@licarter/stages-of-grief-6002f00c84e0
In this post, I want to expand on this, to explain the five, recognised stages of grief, and what they mean in real life terms.
DENIAL
The first stage is denial. It’s that moment just before you wake up properly, when you haven’t really come to reality yet, when you can forget what has happened, and your brain fools you into thinking that they are still alive. It is those moments when you end up thinking /‘This isn’t real. It can’t be real.’/ It is the times when you look around, expecting to see the person, or when you still set their place at the table.
ANGER
The second stage is anger. This is when you think of the person, and feel an intense injustice, that they ‘should be here.’ It is when you feel alone and abandoned, and angry with them for leaving you, when the truth is that they wouldn’t have left you if they could possibly have avoided doing so. It is crying tears of frustration, because you keep ‘forgetting’, even though you aren’t really.
